What to do when Youtube hair video tutorial hairstyle goes wrong...

I don't know how they do it. I tip my hats off to all those Natural Bloggers out there who make great hairstyle tutorials. I always get inspired by the notion of trying something new with my hair...So y'all know some of the favorite vloggers out there are : KinkyCoilyCurlyMe; Iknowlee; MyNaturalSistas; and CharyJay just to name a few.

So I attempted to do the following hair style to my hair*:

*Video Courtesy of Backsyncfan Youtube channel go here for more great styles

I spent 1 hour and 25 mins the night before two-strand twisting my hair and getting this down to a science by Bantu knotting the 2-strand twists. Excited and eager to see the finished look I got up the next morning and attempted to do the style...

The  front piece of my hair just didn't want to cooperate...So the New hairstyle I wanted to try ended up turning out to be really simple (well at-least for my hair length)...So what is a girl to do when you are stuck in a rut and you have spent hours watching and re-watching the video to make sure you followed all the steps of the tutorial....


1. Come to terms with your hair. It will act how it wants/feels no matter how much styling gel you use, combs, or bobby pins to hold things in place..Just learn to LOVE your hair

2. Improvise....No two hair textures are alike so that side swoop that worked on the Youtube video may not work the same for you...So tweak the hairstyle to your liking and to fit your hair type/texture

3. Be Confident and always put your best foot forward...Although we may not think our hair came out to look nice, other people can't tell so rock your hair with confidence. Some of my best hair styles/looks weren't  ones I liked that much but you couldn't tell because I chose to confidently wear it and made it work

4. If All Else fails...MAKEUP and KILLER OUTFIT...I believe that when hair isn't acting right, time to make up that face and put on clothes that make you feel super great about being you.  My favorite Ruffle cardigan makes me feel super edgy paired over a nice LBD (Little Black Dress) and simple yet bold hoops..


My hair "epic fail" final look:

What are some styles you have attempted ? Did they come out the way you envisioned them? Or id they didn't what did you do to tweak it?

Textured & Natural..Does Natural hair get in the way of getting a new job and/or affect the views of your colleagues about job performance?

Yea Yea I know I have been missing from the Blogger-sphere for a while, but all in good reason...I made it to a year of being natural in Feb 2013 and I have been busy trying to pursue  a career change. Going on Job interviews and applying for jobs but not one single offer....Yet.

I keep thinking OK is there something wrong here? After all this has been my first time being Natural since I was 12 years old and  although the world is starting to embrace Natural textured hair for all its crown and glory I am starting to wonder has Corporate America embraced the natural Afro too??

According to a Poll on Essence.com (March 11, 2013)* :

55% of Women stated that stereotypes about Natural hair exist in the workplace, but they haven't been personally impacted by it. 

18% say No that wearing natural hair does not have anything to do with professional success while 16% believe that Black women feeling self conscious about their hair more so than their colleagues  With 12% saying that  Natural hair affects their work/career as they speak from personal experience.

I am starting to wonder, could my natural hair be holding me back from the career that I am looking to pursue?!

According to CurlyNikki (via CurlyNikki.com/Oct.2012
Natural hair and Corporate world ) "Her experience in Corporate America never was neutral. CulyNikki says she was never approached by her boss CEO or HR about how she should wear her hair  and as a result she was'nt sure how people would respond to her newly big chopped hair, But when more people complimented her on her new loo for her  this made her feel immense support for her decision to become naturally textured". She also alludes this stigma of Textured hair as being unacceptable to "the history of Natural hair and the psychological vestige of Slavery where Natural hair was associated with wild, unruly or uncivilized . As the saying goes if your hair is relaxed, White folks are relaxed.

I don't consider myself one who isn't confident in my hair or  myself, but I've had some time to think about how hair and career interweave (so to speak) and if there is a stigma around more naturally textured hair than curly or straighter hair, it may not be something that can be seen. And how this affects the newly natural sister like myself who isn't in the place she wants to be, trying to work my way up, it seems that to have a  place at the Corporate table doesn't seem to involve an overwhelmed  desire to embrace the kinks, coils, and curls on our heads...hence why so many women still get their hair straightened/permed, it as one of my friends said "more professional looking".

Its Monday and I enter the train station in NYC... I realize that maybe the stigma comes from within, that somewhere either through media, our families or general feedback from people we encounter that Natural hair is still somewhat "uncivilized" to land a job in traditional corporate america. But the inspiration I get when seeing women getting on and off the public trains with hand bags, dresses and  suits, rocking their BIG HAIR DON'T CARE styled coifs off to their job on the grind.... I feel empowered that there are women just like me who have challenged the world's view of beauty, they work in jobs they enjoy and are PAID IN FULL...I just have to continue to stay positive be confident in my good and bad hair days...

It has been a journey that has been one that is teaching me the good old virtue of PATIENCE and trusting in GOD to do his will...in due time things will work out for the best whether or not they love my Big Hair...either way I DON'T CARE!!

Be sure to leave feedback and Comments about your own personal views..have you been personally affected by your hair in the work place?

*Essence.com Natural hair poll results below:

Yes, I know it does because I've had a personal experience with my natural hair affecting my own career.

12%

Yes, I think stereotypes about natural hair exist in the workplace although they haven't affected me personally.

55%

No, I don't think wearing natural hair has anything to do with professional success.

18%

No, I think this idea is really about Black women feeling self-conscious about our hair.

16%

Total votes: 598

Is natural hair affecting your career?